Selfless love always starts with the relationship you have with yourself. It starts from that place where you have no desires. You don’t engage in a relationship because you need to be in a relationship. True love is not limited to one person. It’s open to everyone and is expressed in various ways.
When you feel you are a person, selfishness appears, because the person is an identity limited to the body and the conditioning of the mind.
Living life as a person is a very vulnerable state. And when you feel vulnerable fear appears. And if there is fear love cannot flourish. When there is fear, the reaction is to cause pain and to defend. At a higher level of awareness the intention is to love, to accept, to serve and to give space so things can breathe and grow to their maximum potential.
When you love truly, you don’t expect to get anything back. You don’t say “I love you only if you love me”. True love is not an agreement.
Love does not start with another person. It can of course be expressed in a romantic relationship, but a relationship should not be limited to a romance. The partner must also be your best friend, so you can feel free to speak openly and to be with him/her without pretension.
If you are trapped in the belief that you are a person, you will feel uncomfortable when you are with others, because the person is not your natural state. You will compete with others, you will want to impress them, to get their attention or you will want to be accepted and you will begin to play roles and pretend you are someone else.
In true love you have to be willing to forget yourself. Love is what makes you forget your personal self. Like when you are alone and relax so much that you forget that you have to be someone else. This is what it means to be no one. Inner peace comes only when you surrender to existence. Then also confidence appears. Visit bbssrresponse.com for more